May 6, 2008

• Basic Principles: There Are None.
  

  
  

  In light of Nikki__tran’s recent featured entry, I must say that I respect and do agree with majority of the guidelines given. Now, the reason why I say guidelines is that the word “rule” seem too rigid in a fluid concept such as “dating and relationships”. I suppose we can all agree that not one relationship possess the same dynamics of another, because quite simply, every relationship is composed of two different people each and every single time, bringing in different factors, personalities, histories, and etc.

  
  

  So, why do we like to use the word “rule” so much? I guess because once these rules per se, are given out and made known of, we subconsciously think that we have control over our emotions and destinies if we just follow these rules. It’s an illusion of self-control over a matter of the heart and love. But little do we know, that when one is encountering such complex and notorious circumstances, we often don’t know why we do the things we do. And most often, we thought we knew ourselves and how we would react, only to find that we know so little about ourselves looking back at the aftermath of our actions.

  
  

  What I’m trying to say here is, how many times have we fallen for the vile bitch, the douchebag/asshole, the lazy-no-good couch potato, the immature jerk, the over-the-top-diva-princess-that-don’t-justify-her-own-glory? We all have and we all do. That is why those guidelines exists, because they have been created through our own very experiences. Notice that there is no timeframe or age that those guidelines are specifically applicable to because we can essentially fulfill them anytime in life. But we fall for these characters because regardless of what people say, we overlook their flaws and we think otherwise. We put belief in somebody that nobody else believes in. Let me just contradict my whole entry for a second here by saying that, that is probably the first principle of love: believing in somebody when nobody else does.

  
  

  We can spend our whole lives preparing ourselves emotionally and physically with those rules, but the thing about love, is that we never see it coming.

  
  

  Now let me put it in application for you. Last night, I tried to pull a Nikki__tran by mentioning to my S.O that rule 24) Hanging out with the ex=bad idea in hope that he would see my side of the story. But alas, because of my insecurities in gripping onto rule #24 that I automatically think that it is a bad idea regardless whether my S.O was innocent or not; his explanation just didn’t matter to me, because a rule is a rule. Now that I’m thinking about what I was thinking, where is the rationalization and analyzation? Where does the trust and the leap of faith fit in?

  
  

  There wasn’t any, because I was only following a rule. A rule written by a person that knows nothing about who I am, who my S.O is, and what we do.

  
  

  So why apply rules that knows nothing about you? Because we know little to nothing about ourselves. If one knew themselves well, one wouldn’t need rules to dictate his/her relationship(s).

  
  

  Basic Principles? There are none.
  

  
  

   

  
  

  
  

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