January 18, 2006

• Keep Working On It.
  
  

  
  

  Guys/girls need to understand that after they are committed in a relationship and that all goes well, things should not be categorized as “lassez-faire” from then on.

  
  

  New problems and harder obstacles will arise, and if guys/girls don’t work on or be consistent with previous solutions and compromises, then the couple will just be firing frustrated targets at each other.

  
  

  “Now we got the new problems, and the olds ones that you’ve dug up again because you refuse to do such and such, when you say you would.”

  
  

  But sometimes, those problems aren’t so complicated as all you guys/girls might think. For example..

  
  

  DRESSING UP.
  I say the worst is when your guy/gal pal just decides to stop dressing up. What happen to the person that you were so physically attracted to at first? Not saying that physicality is all to it, but the fact is: you fell for someone which possessed this exquisite sense of style, and the picture changes as time goes on. What happened? Did you stop trying because you thought you got me now and therefore no need to impress me? WRONG! I want my man to look good and smell good. Just because I know he can.

  
  

  THE PRESENTS. (Although, this is quite directed towards men more than women, but it could be both sexes that i’m talking about) Flowers, teddy bears, and chocolates are not just for the beginning of relationships. PRESENTS are not just for melting the ice enveloping the woman’s heart at first. If anything, that flow of gifts should be more and more serendipitous and sentimental. But don’t think wrong, I don’t mean that sentimental gifts should be thought as the same as spending more and more on expensive gifts. Trust me, expensive gifts do not equate to sentimental, it just means you spent it on an IPOD or… stuff that i don’t even need. (But a car or diamond ring would do). But what i’m trying to say is, little gifts and just simple flowers shouldn’t stop coming in for the girl, or in rare cases, guys too. It’s a gesture of care/kindness/thoughfulness for many, not some, but many women out there. So when a guy think he has fulfilled me with exactly 3 bouquets of flowers and no more, the love lauguage has stopped.

  
  

  SKIN AND BONES.
  Now this is not so much as “dressing up” but more of the physical, and i mean physical to the point of skin, fat, and bones. Let’s just say that sometimes, people gain weight or lose weight because of traumatizing, stressful, or whatever events that might give a yo-yo number on the scale. (The classic example would be students going into the first 2 years of college. The freshman 15 or so. But thats not my main concern.) My main concern is that people who are committed in a long-relationship and are skinny or at least healthy/decent to begin with, let it loose in the middle. ”What happened here?” Not that it’s being shallow, unless you really are, but like Marge would say: “I find myself less attracted to you [Homer]..” When one is in a commited relationship, they should not careless about how they look or weight just because they already have a fish in hand, and that she/he should love you as you are. That is a wrong and very selfish mentality to have. Not only are you letting yourself go like that, you endanger your health and the relationship. It leads the other party worrying for your weight gain/weight loss, and all the while, you let it go because you think her/his love comes for free. Wake up and do some laps or eat some food. You still need to appeal to him/her. She/he deserves all your best intention to live a happy and HEALTHY life together.

  
  

  THE JOB.
  Guys guys guys, and I will say only guys because many girls are suffering as I am in this very same situation: Guys need to get a job. It is A SHAME that the girl is supporting both the guy and herself (along with her daily shopping sprees) and going out movie-dinner bills. Now, I just want the guys to picture themselves in the girl shoes. If you were her, would you still like the guy or feel as appreciated and loved, of even… treated like how a girl should? Probably not. But don’t get me wrong, other women like to be in the dominant role, but so many out there and many hidden, often wants to find someone whom they can confide in every aspect of their life together. And that includes finance. If a guy can’t even support the girl with simple finance such as covering a simple dinner bill, how will a woman expect that this guy will cover ANYTHING when they decide to live/move in together? My man has got to get a job. Cause I ain’t paying the bills… all the time.

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