September 16, 2006

•  Tickle My Mind.

  Since I am unemployed right now, I have lots of time to think to myself, or what we call it “daydreaming”. I’ve been thinking lately about these things down there, and they tickle my mind just a little bit:

  1. How people can get engaged within months of knowing each other or starting a new relationship. And then you see others who take 5,6,7 years to build a thick relationship together before tying the knot. Most of us will probably see it in this light: The people who get engaged within months will not last, while the couple who took longer to get married will last longer and have less of a chance of divorce. I don’t know, I’ve seen vice versa also, and they’re both equal in statistics. Maybe it isn’t how long you stay in a relationship, but how it makes one feels. I’ve always wanted to fall head over heels within minutes and months. Some call that dangerous and blinding, but I call that finding and knowing who you want to be with for the rest of your life according to your heart without our heads getting in the way. Xangans, would you prefer to know who you want to be with within minutes? Or would you want circumstances and time to tell the story? Which way is more reliable in knowing what’s true?

  2. And I quote my Psychology professor in the first lecture: “I was at one of the parties and started talking to this guy. He asked me what major I am, so I told him ‘psychology’. He looked at me with widen eyes and said “are you going to psychologize me?” Oh — and that was the end of him. What the hell does ‘psychologize’ mean?…” And that’s how she pushed away a guy, a possibility. Now, how do people do that? Just by one single phrase they can tell that that person is not fit for them? Okay, maybe psychologize is not even a word and it might depict the intelligence of the guy to be quite low, but I’m sure if my professor pursued the conversation, he would’ve turned it into a nicely, profound joke, or maybe he’ll turn out to be a cutie. I don’t know, how do you push away somebody just by the word ‘psychologize’? Would you?

  3. Listening to Jessica Simpson and Nick Lachey is actually quite a painful endeavour. Why? Because both sides are singing to each other. It’s either “I hate you, I don’t need you” or “I can’t hate you anymore, but why do you have to leave?” It’s like all of a sudden I’m sucked into their relationship. However, I do find their lyrics sad, and I just wish that they can both get together once again, because that would be the sweetest thing. All this makes me think about what made them so unhappy. They’re both romantic to each other, have beautiful lives, I don’t really know what’s missing. Maybe buying nice rims, or have a professional cello player play for valentines day dinner, or having nice expensive earrings as a present is just not enough. With everything that they have, they’re still searching what every ordinary person is searching for in this world. Maybe money doesn’t buy happiness after all.

  
  

  EDIT: Now I feel really dumb! ’psychologize’ is actually a word!
  American Heritage Stedman’s Medical Dictionary – Cite This Source

  psy·chol·o·gize (s-kl-jz)
  v. psy·chol·o·gized, psy·chol·o·giz·ing, psy·chol·o·giz·es

  1. To explain behavior in psychological terms.
  2. To investigate, reason, or speculate in psychological terms.

  Can you believe it? The guy actually got it right and used it in the correct form. That is why people should not push other potential mates away just because of a word or phrase, because quite frankly, you might not even know the word yourself. Sigh.

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