November 2, 2006
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Girls Don’t Like Boys, Girls Like Cars and Money.
I thought this is quite interesting while I was flipping through my psychology textbook. Read with discretion: Women (namely, pro-feminists) may shake their fists in rage of the programmed materialism found in themselves. While men, might nod in agreement confirming their long suspicion of the notion; ”women are evil”– might be true afterall.
“According to evolutionary theories, human females enhance their chances of passing on their genes by seeking male partners who possess or are likely to acquire more material resources that can be invested in children. Thus, women should emphasize education, income, status, ambition, and industriousness in potential partners. Men, on the other hand, are assumed to maximize their reproductive outlook by seeking fremale partners with good breading potential. Thus, men are thought to look for youth, attractiveness, good health, and other characteristics presumed to be associated with higher fertility. If these evolutionary analyses of sexual motivation are on the mark, gender differences in mating preferences should be virtually universal and thus transcend culture.”
Personally, I think this passage is true to the extent that being successful (whether male OR female) is a highly desired trait. I think this holds more truth in the past than it does in our modern society. It is not until women now have more equal rights in the business world that we DON’T have to rely on the male counterpart to fulfill our every needs. If it is wealth and a good future that we’re programmed to seek for our offsprings, successful women can easily provide that now. Thus, women who only date men who are wealthy holds much more truth in the past because women were stripped off of every right except to fulfill our “lot”, that is, being a good housekeeper.
As our society advances and strives for equal rights of a person whether male or female, black or white, I could only see women marrying men for love rather than for money. To me, the formula just doesn’t make sense. Why suffer the guilt and emptiness just so you can sleep with “money” beside you at night? The only reason why I could see that there are still golddiggers lying around would be that those women are just plain lazy, they have no independence to think for themselves nor aspirations to live a good life. They want everything to be catered to them, and they have no intention of establishing good character in themselves. Women are now given the chance to work, so they should work. If there isn’t any special reasons why married men keep their women at home, I suggest men to throw the women out in the streets to work for themselves or to bring home some extra cash — just because they can.
Men being good providers is different from men who passively feed their wives money. Passively feeding their wives money is far from providing. It’s almost like paying someone to be your wife. To me, that’s like living a lie. Sure you might put gourmet food on the table, but there are much more things to feed in a family. Providers are those that keep family and children as a priority, rather than job or money. There is love, commitment, trust, patience, growing old that needs to be kept close to the heart. If marrying a rich business man that is never home to help me build these things that matters the most, then I would ask myself, what family do I have? Maybe that’s why people cheat. Or maybe that’s why people divorce so many times. Women (or men) don’t stick with their husband/wives for money anymore. They’re looking for real love: a genuine provider.
Xangans, what do you think about women working? Are our “lot” still is being good housekeepers? Are women ultimately programmed to sift out the bums and marry the rich? What does being a GOOD PROVIDER mean to you?
Comments (4)
yeah WOMEN KEEP WORKING!! hahaha
i think women finally come to their senses when they get older and realize what qualities makes a good husband ….when you’re young have fun….when its time to settle…its a different game!
there will always be those women who seek the easy way out. do you know just how much girls are living in l.a./hollywood, for this purpose alone?
stop living off of your looks beeyotch. someone will always be hotter.
well, lemme see…I am probably deemed to be past the ‘normal’ age where one, umm, mates and procreates…and, as a guy, probably don’t seem like the ‘hot deal’ to some women – since I don’t make a ton of moolah…however, it has been my experience that ‘real’ women do find ‘real’ men, once the BS of consumeristic early life is left in the dust…bottom line? I think I’ve been blessed with some very good female friends and, just maybe, one day…well…
I think a good provider is one who can be there for you emotionally.
(And physically too I suppose.)
Having said that, I’m looking for love myself, but any guy I meet must have a job! I don’t want anyone mooching off me. (Or if not employed then they must be a student – MA or PhD.)