November 12, 2006
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Games.
I hate playing games. Have you ever seen that movie “Two Can Play That Game”? The advice that Shante Smith (Vivica Fox) gives sure does motivate a woman to try those rules on their next incoming man. However, as the movie proceeds, it all boils down to ‘playing it with no rules’ because at the end, it’s all about the heart — not how many hours it took him to call you back.
Cardinal rule no. 1: Do not call him.
Whoever calls first loses ground.
Rule no. 1: Never panic.
Stay cool.
Cardinal rule no. 2:
When your man messes up, no matter how small it is…
… you gots to punish him. Punish him hard.
Rule no. 2: Never let your girlfriends know the whole situation.
They’ll give you bad advice and ruin your confidence.
And confidence is key.
Rule no. 3: Break up with him before he breaks up with you.
Whoever breaks up with the person first wins.
I swear there was more, but that’s all I could find now.
Personally, I think those rules can be broken. And the guy can break them, calling you and chatting it up with you, but that doesn’t mean that you mean anything to him if it ain’t consistent. It just means that they were bored so they had time to chat. Consistency is the key. Why is it so hard to find a guy that is consistent?
What’s your brilliant rule that you live by? Do you believe in rules in a relationship/fling?
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I need to stand up for myself – once and for all.
You must not know about me.
My hate for men grows.
Comments (4)
i believe in flexible rules, aka common sense/intuition.
that rule about girls calling first — maybe it’s because the girl could scare him off if she comes on too strong. it’s better if the guy gets the idea in his head to call her first. if she keeps initiating things..it could lead to her calling him to talk all the time, her planning dates, her asking him to marry, etc, etc…BUT…i’m sure shy guys would love for a girl to call them first. still..the thrill is in the chase… i’m really old-fashioned though, as you can tell!
rules #2 and 3 and cardinal rule #2 sound stupid!
but cardinal rule #1 seems great for making first impressions and not letting him know that he has you…
and rule #1 is PERFECT for all stages of the relationship
One of my rules (probably my only one) is make sure you do not like/love the person more than they like/love you… if you like/love them more they are in control of the relationship ie. your heart and you are at mercy hahaha this rule may change for me later on…but based on what i’ve seen so far…ahaha so i am in agreement with cardinal rule #1
I think every relationship has its own “rules”…even with friendships. Some rules apply to certain people and not to others…I think that only Rule 1 really applies to everyone and everything. That’s the key not to LOSE the relationship irrationally….
Okay…rules that i try to follow, but quiet often end up out the window:
1) At the beginning…no expectations…ever. Expectations are only ways to narrow your vision and compare to past lovers. When you look at a new relationship as just that – a new relationship, a new partner, something new – you learn. 2) Be honest, but not needy. heh. Almost sounds contradicting, but not completely. IE: If you miss someone, call them and tell them that you were thinking of them so you decided to call. Don’t however, tell them that you’ve been sitting at your desk/office/room for 9 hours waiting for him/her to get off work so that you could call him/her the minute that person is free lol. 3) Be honest with yourself and follow through. Whether you’re looking for financial or emotional stability, someone who brings routine, someone who brings the unexpected, or anything else, look at the person and think seriously about whether or not that person can offer what you’re looking for. 4) And this is the most important rule, never, repeat never compare the guy you’re with to thethinkingmansidiot. Thethinkingmansidiot is an asian god/adonis/the hottest damn asian guy alive, and almost anyone will pale in comparison =P Hope that helps Ellen.