January 10, 2007
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Do I Find Comfort In Pain?
They say that I am a sucker for punishment. That I will never learn in the game of love. I will always give to the wrong, and never see the right. In this case, it means I’ve past P.C long time ago, or that I’ll never see P.C the way that he is, even if, he was standing right in front of me. I apparently, find comfort in pain.
Do women go for assholes for this reason? Because there is a large population of us that find comfort in the chase? The lack of reciprocity? The heartbreak and pain?
There are words, sentences, and questions I wish you did not say or ask. They linger. They feed onto a part of me that must not be fed. It gives me hope, when there are none.
Comments (9)
ryc: Interesting thoughts. I guess I don’t see Christian faith as a series of obligations and requirements, but as a change of who we are. The heart of the Way is not about a “contract,” any more than the heart of marriage is the document you sign down at the county office.
it’s the chase of winning someone’s heart over, then hoping to change him for and towards the better. girls make it their pet project to change a guy than vice versa, that, i cannot explain.
i agree with djcaptainzowie. i think girls want to date assholes in hopes that they can change the guy towards a better direction, or make a difference. seeing a side of the guy that others cannot see. things like that. what do you think?
everyone likes a challenge
i agree with the above 2 comments, trying to change someone
eventually you’ll realize assholes aren’t worth it lolol
you’re retarded!
I had the exact same thought about how i tend to thrive in times of misery. It’s as if I want to be miserable to be creative. But Stupid and happy works for me too. I guess I’m retarded too.
i think a large part of the asshole’s lure…is that he’s sweet to the girl, but an asshole to everyone else..so already..the girl feels special to be subjected to this attention..another thing about assholes is that they “seem” confident, bordering on cocky even…and of course, confidence is very attractive….
it’s a classic syndrome.. love for the asshole.
i think helen’s hit the nail on the head completely.
love that line in the italics btw.
i think i shall quote it.
i think that, deep down, somewhere within our stupid selves, we want to be sad.
Garbage’s “i’m only happy when it rains”, anyone?
why else would we put ourselves through the fucking torture?
or we could just have really BAD LUCK..
ryc: wow. that would be uber cool. looking forward
It’s an age old problem for both sexes whether it be women chasing the “bad boy” or the man chasing “the dream girl.” We’re always gluttons for punishment. I think it’s in part due to media we watch in our lifetime. Problem is, there’s no real answer, it’s never easy, and it most often doesn’t work out…