May 13, 2008
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Knowing You Care.
I think a big part of relationships and having to commit to someone is so that you know that if anything ever happened, somewhere in this world, there is that one person you can always rely/count on. I’ve heard many say that it is the label that obligates the individual to do such and such, but let me assure you, if your significant other starts talking to you in this tone: “Well, of course I have to do it, *roll eyes*, I’m your boyfriend.” or “I’m going to pay for this later if I don’t do it, aren’t I”, then yeah — time to rethink about the person that you’re dating and if you really want to invest all your emotions in that one basket.
They’re doing it just because they have to.
Not because they want to.
I really do hate it when people do things out of obligation. The quality of the gesture is at its minimal because truly, they don’t reaaally give a shit. Everything is just a means to an end, and most probably, that end is not what you wanted as well. For instance, guys do certain things, like get you flowers not because you like flowers or wanted to see you smile, they just wanted to get in your pants or get you to perform some sexual favours (i’m Canadian, I spell it that way) at the end of the night. It’s their selfish end that they were gunning for. And of course, I’m not speaking on behalf of all men on this planet. (shifty eyes).
So while I was in the bathroom huddling around the toilet because I felt like I was going to throw up with all this fever and cold infesting my body, I thought to myself, I would really like my future husband or boyfriend to be able to take care of me when I’m sick. It’s really the only time when i’m truly vulnerable. I mean, if men weren’t there to take care of me and protect me, what the hell are they good for?
Entertainment? I can entertain myself.
Everything else, I can do myself.
If I ever ended up in a hospital, it’s safe/good to know that when I gain consciousness again, I will expect and know to see only one face waiting for me to get up.
And ontop of that, when I’m sick, like now, I’m needy as hell. I am basically like a five year old. FEED ME!!! VITA LEMON TEA!!! SUSHI!!! SEND TO ADDRESS BELOW!!! It’s real!!!
Comments (12)
lol hahahahahahahahahha
i just saw the end… hahah that answers my question
and in response to the post
i agree, you should ‘want’ to do everything not feel obligated
to be honest though, sometimes i’ve felt obligated… at the time
i didn’t ‘want’ to do the thing…but…i wanted to do it later… but
because she got mad i was obligated to do it then just to appease her
girl, you are one brave woman for posting up your real address.
not supposed to eat raw food when you’re sick.
THERE! i care!
oh yeah, i had a vita lemon tea just a few minutes ago… mmm refreshing.
aww hun, I hope you’re feeling better today.
and as for him doing things because he has to, rather than wanting to…let’s just say it’s a good thing I’m not investing all of my emotions in that one skinny basket.
@shake_things_up - So, I’ll be seeing you at my place soon time?
@star_gazr - Care to share? *pout*
@januaryicecream - You’re so harsh, it breaks my heart. But yet, I still have this smirk on my face.
I wish my boyfriend could take care of me when i’m very sick, or when I’ve experienced trauma more particularly…. I just need him to be there the next day… I do feel vulnerable then as well..
Doing things out of obligation is not my style either. I hate saying I love you because I feel obligated to parrot it back after he says it first.
I’d like to think that everything I do is authentic.
Oh, this is so trueee. & get well soon dear.
@lala_land86 - Aw, thanks lala.
calm down sicky, you’re going crazy!
you shouldn’t have to feel dragged and obligated to do something in a relationship. yeah, sometimes you sacrifice so the other person can have more joy (like letting him control the remote and letting him watch the big game instead of american idol), but other than that, no, i don’t believe in it. but at the same time, i think girls put in their heads that things need to be done a certain way and us guys don’t always get the picture unless you spell it out for us and by that time you are hella pissed off because he doesn’t love you enough to just know and then he’s in trouble no matter what he does. end game? i think people shouldn’t put sig others in that position with all those weighty expectations.
so true.
It’s really nice when you have someone to take care of you and basically baby you when you’re sick. I hate being sick, but I love the care and extra attention, haha (: